"I'm in charge!" "NO! I'M IN CHARGE!!"
I read a lot..AAAA LOOOOTTT of supernatural/paranormal fiction, and one of my largest deal breakers when it comes to choosing a story is the portrayal of Dominant and Submissive relationships.
Now, don't get me wrong I love me a good story and i'm open minded to different portrayals of this dynamic, but my problem stems from specifically Shifters (Were-animals) and Vampire portrayals.
For these two character types, D/S relationships are almost gaurenteed to be a large part of the story.
It's always the same old, same old.
Shifters:
The shifter is almost always larger then the human and an Alpha and/or a Dominent, and in this case is almost always a wolf/dragon or other large breed predator.
If the shifter is smaller than the human then the human takes on the Dominant arch type while the shifter is an omega or runt of the litter, or otherwise submissive breed of "pet" like animal.
Or in the case of two shifter the larger is an Alpha and/or dominant while the smaller is an omega or generally submissive "breed", like a house cat.
AND EVERY TIME a shifter finds their mate they are overcome with the desire to have sex with said mate immediatly regardless of location. "But they're soulmate!" "It's animal instinct!" Uh, animals don't actually behave like that unless the female is in heat, humans don't normally go into heat..so it's kinda completely inaccurate.
Vampires:
when a vampire is paired with a non vampire the vampire is almost always a Master Vampire of sometype, and take the Dominant role.
when the vampire is paired with another vampire the older vampire is normally the Dominant while the younger is submissive due to either having been "sired" by the other or because of inherent submissive personality caused by some kind of issue instead of actually being a natural submissive. Can't claim natural submissiveness if you've been turned into a magical creature.
Also the vampire is at the minnimum 2x the age of a they're "partner" when Dominant, while submissives are often newly turned or significantly younger than they're Dominant.
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Portrayals of other supernatural/paranormal creatures often follow a similar patern if you take into account that any hybrid of human and animal normally follows the shifter example, while and imortal diety not associated with an animal, any type of fey, as well as most human magic users, follow the vampire example.
It becomes a bit tedious. I encourage writers to switch it up. There's more to D/S relationships then is exampled in most of the works i read, a lot of which are mainstream.
And lest it be overlooked during this post, there is more to Supernatural/Paranormal Creatures than D/S relatioships. Especially for Vampire and Shifters.
Get some new material.
Smooches!
******EDIT 12/31******
Just finished reading two books in a series about Werewolves and it recalled to mind a topic of D/S relationships in these genres that i find supper irritating because of its stereotypical-ness.
It's the fact that Dominant partners are NEVER inclined to assume receptive roles during sexual situations. While submissive partners NEVER required or seem interested in taking on active roles.
This, I've found is most common in M/M romance of this genre where the Dominant partner never bottoms because the authors and perhaps the readers infer that bottoming means you are less Dominant or perhaps more vulnerable.
When switched to M/F romance the female character if Dominant often engages in sexual activity from a "girl on top" postion, While the male dominant character i portrayed the same as in M/M romance.
I've found though that close examintation of the characters actions reveal that a character portrayed is Dominant in these circumstances is often Controlling and protective (paranoid) outside the bedroom while in the bedroom they are demanding, BUT not focused on their own pleasure to the point that sexual activity is often entirely in the hands of the Submissive partner who does absolutly nothing but recieve attention.
Some of you may ask, "But isn't that what D/S relationships are?".
To that i say, Dominant partners can be controling and are often intiator the when it comes to sexual activity, however, the Dominant partners role at it's basis is to have thier needs/desires fulfilled by the submissive partner. The submissive partners role is to fulfill the needs/desires of the Dominant partner, most often recieving pleasure from pleasing their partner.
A "submissive" partner who lies back and does nothing but give them selves over to the "dominant" partner, who in turn works dilligently to provide said "submissive" with pleasure, is not actually taking a submissive role, but is in fact taking on a Dominant role. While the "Dominant" is taking on the role of submissive by focusing on fulfilling their partners needs and placing those above their own.
This can be identified also in the often seen example of the "Dominant" who is abusive or does not acknowledge their relationship with their "submissive", and then when the "submissive" has met someone else (a rival), or the the couple has borken up or been seperated with or without the "dominant" fighting to maintain the relationship.
Under these circumstances you find that the "Dominant" partner becomes obssessed with the "Submissive" partner often to the degree of not taking care of themselves, becoming depressed or suffering mood swings even while maintaing a denial that they don't actually want to be with the "submissive" while the "submissive" often is saddened but soon becomes angry and begins to move on with their life rather quickly while rembering their "dominant" fondly.
If you switch the Dominant and submissive labels in the previous two paragraphs the fact that the story still make sense if not more sense shows that the author hasn't taken into account the personalities of Dominants and Submissive.
I should say however that not all Real Life dominant and Submissives behave in the same ways. Some may follow the examples i've described while some may not, however i should point out that the MAJORITY of D/S relationships in romance today follow only the one path painting a singularly monochromatic landscape in regards to D/S relationships while at the same time misrepresenting a lot of the things which label D/S relationships as D/S relations.
KK that's all for now. ^_^
1. Wage Gap is a myth because you dont quantify Divorce statistics into this, no one does. Where if a couple stay married the children- both MALE and FEMALE children will inherent the mans money and wife- you dont look at in this why men die much earlier than women because have to work themselves to death, whilst women tend to stay home. AND in divorce the womyn will get more than half assets without working for them. So this ontop on how the adverage is used makes it BS.
2. You dont say that violent crime is far higher as a police statistic to men than women, where rape is such an insignificant crime figure it is hardly registerable. Rape culture like Pay gap is simply there to have advantaged the concept that women are victims thus giving them better leverage in Divorce- see point 1. Rape culture is the concept that men are a privileged sex who dont have to think about anything and this is usually there to hide the fact women like to try and ape male behaviour.
3. No rapist has ever been let off from a rape, because of how the female was dressed. What rape investigation does do is try to determine if the female is lying based upon other more malign reasons out of female psyche - that are proven, incase the rape isn't real. Rape is invented just as female agency uses victimization as to being intimidated or threaterned in certain situations usually where they have not been and is used therefore to have proxy violence performed instead.
In reality most terminations are performed by female social factors and empowerment, this is a female kill-theory.
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Seriously..? This person is fucking retarded in a bad way.
My responses are as follows
1. Since the wage gap applies to women who work and not women who don't work divorce statistics don't apply. Bringing that up is the same as saying there are only a few (insert racial miority)'s that work legally in the U.S. so they shouldn't make they same amount of money as the majority <- Slavery, anyone?
1. Secondly if your working in stereotypes, women who "stay home" are expected to budget the household finances (shoping), cook, clean, raise children, and provide sex for their husbands (regardless of if they do or not it is a societal expectation) which if you HIRED someone to do would be very expensive. Personal Chefs, Maids, Accountants, Personal Shoppers, and Child care. Child care alone costs upwards of $300 a week if you have a full time job.
1. Third, inheritance laws work both ways as do divorce laws. A widower may recieve their spouses property upon their death. If a husband makes less money than his wife he may be entitled to recieve allimony payments upon their divorce. Just because men often choose not to pursue these rights, or the circumstances don't favor those types of rulings, do not mean that men are not entitled to equal treatment under the law in those cases.
2. Rape culture is there to promote the concept that women are victims, and to brain wash women into believing it themselves. This allows men to dominate them through fear tactics. Your statement that men are a privlidged sex is in fact reafirmed by your later statement that "women like to "TRY" to ape male behavior". Behavior in humans is ALL human behavior, seperating it into male and female behaviors is just reaffirming that you believe male behavior has some sort of MALE ONLY sign on it.
3. hat is proven is that rape victims are often shamed/bullied based on how they're dressed and so many never come foreward to accuse their rapist through legal means. If someone is traumatized they can legaly be said to be INCOMPETENT. This means they are unable to decide for themselves if what happened to them bears investigation or not. So if a woman is shamed into not accusing her rapist that's coercion, if she believes that coercion she's incompetent and the rape is not invalidated.
4. Abortion in most cases is used to prevent bringing a child into this world whose 1) parents don't want them, 2) parents can't support them, 3)possibly have life threatening birth defects, 4) being brought to term would endanger the life of their mother as well a s themselves. All 4 of those can result in death for the child anyway, where as abortion would cause death but limited suffering.
4. continued- Death by abuse, death by starvation/environment(freezin
5. Are you a robot? were you not born from a women? and yet you do not seem to respect that she is a human being, and entitled to the same rights as any other human being regardless of gender. I'd be ashamed if you were my child, and if i knew that you'd be inflicting such prejudical and toxic veiws upon the world, well...lets just be glad that your not. i know i am, i hear prison is very rough.
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Yep I went there. what a misogynist, give a bad name to people everywhere.